💕 The Struggle Every Mom Knows
If you’re anything like me, the words “spoil yourself” probably make you laugh a little. Between bills, kids, and the never-ending to-do list, who has the time — or the budget — to think about us, right? For years, I didn’t.
Every paycheck went to essentials, debts, and savings — and of course, my daughter. I’d always ask myself, What does she need? What does she want? And only when she was all set did I even think about me. But by then, there was usually nothing left to give.
I’ll never forget the day I finally broke down. My clothes were worn out, my shoes were falling apart, and I couldn’t avoid it anymore. I went shopping and bought myself a few things — and instead of feeling happy, I felt guilty. How could I buy something for me when I wasn’t buying for her? Even though she had everything she needed, I still felt selfish.
But that moment opened my eyes. I realized I had spent so long pouring into everyone else that I had nothing left for myself. And that’s when I decided — enough is enough.
🌼 Learning to Love Myself Again
Fast forward to the next year, when I fell in love with the Dyson Airwrap (yes, that one). I wanted it so badly, but the guilt crept back in. For four days, it sat in my cart. Then one afternoon, my mom asked if I’d bought it yet. I laughed and said, “Well, it’s still in my cart — does that count?”
Her response changed everything. She said,
“Are your bills paid? Do you and your daughter have everything you need? Then spoil yourself, baby. You deserve it. You do everything for everyone — don’t forget to do something for you.”
That hit me deep. And with my eyes closed (literally!), I finally hit confirm purchase.
It wasn’t just about the hair tool. It was about permitting myself — permission to feel joy, to invest in myself, and to remember that I matter too.
🌺 Teaching My Daughter Through Example
That moment became a turning point. I made a promise to myself: twice a year, I’d buy something I need and something I want. No guilt. No hesitation. Clothes, heels, a hair appointment — whatever made me feel good and taken care of.
And something beautiful happened — my daughter noticed. She started caring for herself too, finding her own little rituals of self-love. We began doing things together — nails, hair, little “self-care dates.” I realized that by taking care of myself, I was teaching her the most important lesson: that self-love isn’t selfish
🌸 The Reminder Every Mama Needs
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AUTHOR: NEMESIS N. ESCOBAR-CRUZ
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